Occasionally, people ask me during a divorce case whether they should take a certain job, or quit a certain job, or accept or decline benefits when new choices come their way. They are concerned that their job-related choices will have an impact on their divorce case. Maybe they have an opportunity to get a raise, but that will make it so they don't get as much alimony, or makes it so they will have to pay more alimony. And so they ask, should I take the job?

This video presents my view and advice on the matter. In a nutshell, if you are making all of your life decisions based on how those decisions will impact your divorce case, I think you are looking at the wrong things and living out of fear.

Make decisions the way you normally would. Is the job offer advantageous? Is it work you want to do? Can you work with people that uplift you? Will it lead to more opportunity down the road? Are the benefits good for you, your children, your family? Are the hours what you want? Are they flexible? What are the pros and cons? 

Part of getting through a divorce case is not letting it control every aspect of your life. At some point (hopefully sooner than later), your divorce case will be over. But your life goes on.

Live your life to the fullest.